Dealing with comparisons is a universal experience, whether within family relationships or friendships. Regardless of the context, comparisons are consistently unhealthy, unproductive, and ultimately unwise. Upon reflection, the uniqueness inherent in each individual makes comparisons futile. This wisdom is also echoed in scripture, cautioning against the unwise practice of comparing ourselves to others (2 Corinthians 10:12).
Why Comparisons Are Not Useful
- Comparisons have the potential to inflict wounds on people. They can create a sense of inadequacy, diverting attention from our unique qualities crafted by God. Instead of focusing on our individual gifts, comparisons lead us to fixate on others and their abilities. This tendency towards comparisons can breed an inferiority complex, coupled with feelings of jealousy and envy. The desire for what others possess may stem from a misguided belief that they have everything we long for. However, this perception might be far removed from reality. When comparing our lives to individuals seen on social media, for example, we may be measuring ourselves against an illusion. Additionally, comparisons can distort our self-perception, making us feel less beautiful or capable than others when, in truth, we are uniquely beautiful.
- God created each person with purpose, emphasizing the unity and diversity within the body of Christ (1 Corinthians 12:12-27, NIV). Each individual has a distinct role in the Kingdom of God, and comparing ourselves to others can cause us to lose focus and potentially step into roles not intended for us. True contentment and confidence arise when we recognize that the gifts and talents bestowed upon us by God are sufficient to fulfill our calling and bless others.
- Community is essential, as highlighted in 1 Corinthians 12:12-27. Christians are not meant to navigate life in isolation but rather to exist within a community that comprises diverse talents, gifts, perspectives, and strengths. This diversity is crucial for building the Kingdom of God. By contributing our unique gifts, talents, and strengths, we complement one another instead of competing. Although easier said than done, following God’s Word and resisting the urge to compare ourselves to others can lead to a blessed life.
The Bottom Line
You are unique, and God has a specific plan for you (Jeremiah 1:5). Discover your place, stand firm, and reject the temptation to compare yourself to others, recognizing that God has uniquely blessed you.
Akosua Frempong, Ph.D., is a freelance journalist with the Evangelical Press Association. She has worked in journalism on three continents. As part of her journalism experience, she has worked as a broadcast journalist, anchor, and producer. Dr. Frempong is an adjunct journalism professor at Regent University, Virginia Beach, Virginia. Moreover, she is the founder of Listening Ear Communications, a company that provides excellent, professional journalism to various news media organizations and publications.